Fetish Types - Different Types of Kinks That You May Not Know
Most likely you are already participating in some form of sexual fetish or kink. You don't have to have a full 50 Shades style room dedicated to an alternative version of pleasure to participate in a kink. Rather, you can dip your toe in the fetish pool or dive in. It's you and your partner(s)'s choice based on the comfort level you both have to the activity and adventure. So, if someone says that your sex life is vanilla, you can quietly smile and let your mind slip back into those sensual moments that were all but vanilla.
There are plenty of sexual fetishes and kinks in the world. Getting to know them is a great way to improve on your nightly adventures or to explore a new world. This list is a jumping off point and is not meant to be fully dispositive on the subject, but hopefully gets your mind going in a heart pumping, lip biting direction for future romps in the bedroom, or the living room, or kitchen, or car, or grass, or anywhere you heart (or other body part) desires.
Is a Kink Different than a Fetish?
Kink and fetish are often used interchangeably but are slightly different. In general conversation there isn't really a noticeable difference. However, if you want to be precise with your words you should note the difference. For the purposes of this article, kink and fetish can be used interchangeably. Both do share the same social view that the activity or attraction isn't "fully accepted" by all social norms. This in no way means that it is counterculture, rather, it just implies less openness or a little outside the standard sexual norms.
A kink is a sexual activity that isn't required for arousal, stimulation, or climax. However, it is something that can be used during a sexual encounter for these activities. For example, maybe you don't need role play to get off, but dressing up as a French maid or lumberjack can make the evening exciting and unique. Further, you don't absolutely need to be dressed up to get off, it just enhances that discrete event.
A sexual fetish can be the same activity of a kink but how you respond to it is more intense. This means that you aren't just excited in that single event, you need that kink to get aroused or get off in most situations. So, the difference isn't in what the activity is, but rather, it relates to how attracted you are to that action and how your body responds. The best example is dirty talk. Some people love a little dirty talk now and again when they are in the mood. However, others need it to really feel sexually aroused and excited at all.
What are the Most Common Sexual Fetishes?
Let's dive in and talk about the actual activities. In a 2017 article of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers wanted to know how prevalent BDSM was in the mainstream. Further, Justin Lehmiller, PhD, part of the Kinsey Institute has conducted surveys specifically on this subject. Basically, can you really call something a fetish or a kink if the majority of the population do it, want to do it, and need to do it?
- Upwards of 50% of the population has tried some form of BDSM
- Over 90% of men and women have fantasied about BDSM & Dirty Talk
- Over 80% of men and women have fantasied about Role Play
- 73% of men and 48% of women have fantasied about spying or Voyeurism
- 58% of men and 36% of women have fantasied about having someone else have sex with their partner or Cuckolding
- 47% of men and 36% of women have fantasied about having sex in public or Exhibitionism
- Over 30% of men women say that they have fantasied about spandex, leather, sex and food, and both anal and vaginal fisting
Most individuals or couples tend to quietly fantasize about their kink or fetish without realizing how prevalent and common it is. Instead of viewing our sexual desires as rare and attaching shame or guilt to them. What we can take from these numbers is the understanding that BDSM and most all common kinks and fetishes are fantasized by most of the population.
What are some Lesser Know Sexual Fetishes?
So, what about the lesser known fetishes? The mentioned kinks are general knowledge. What else could you explore with yourself or with a partner(s)? You may not be into all of them, but knowledge is power. So, let's check some out!
BDSM
Mentioned above, BDSM is an umbrella category to incorporate many different activities. This could be as simple as holding someone's hand down or as complex as handcuffs and getting tied up. The acronym is actually BD-DS-SM but is simplified to take out the duplicate letters. It stands for Bondage & Discipline – Domination & Submission – Sadism & Masochism. The main purpose of BDSM is a consensual power play adventure between everyone involved with toys, or not.
Breath Play
You may have heard this referred to as chocking. However, it does include anything that involves controlling your breathing or someone else's. You may be in control or it could be your partner. This is a dangerous activity, but with proper safety in place, it can be incredibly rewarding.
Switching
If you start to get bored with the power structure between the individuals, you can switch the positions. So, if the lady likes to be dominant, you can switch up the roles and the gentleman or other partner can play the dominant role.
Golden Showers
Golden showers are part of the activities that include peeing. Not for everyone, you probably already know if this is something of interest. Great fun for everyone, piss play is easy and safe. Just make sure you do it somewhere that is easily cleaned.
Edge Play
Edge play talks about any type of sexual adventure that includes a sharp object. Another dangerous activity, this edge play could include knives or swords or anything that could be used to pierce the skin.
Erotic Humiliation
It doesn't seem likely, but erotic humiliation feeds into the power dynamics that are highly attractive and arousing to a lot of people. It can be easily done with any level of intensity, which makes it a favorite thing to explore.
CBT
CBT refers to cock and ball torture. This doesn't mean that you are torturing or injuring any penises. CBT is more about the control of the erection and the control of the orgasm. Often this is achieved via a cock ring or a cock cage.
Foot Fetish
If you like to see feet, then you know this category already. Feet are beautiful, silky smooth, and highly useful. So, it makes sense that feet can really make someone's eyes curl.
Orgasm Control
This is a broader category that could include CBT but includes any action that could slow or stop the orgasm. Even changing positions or going slower or fully stopping a motion is a type of orgasm control. This is highly effective and high exciting.
Impact Play
Impact play can be considered anything that includes spanking, slapping, or consensual hitting. It is easy to get a smile with a little light impact play. It can even be exciting to have some spanking during the actual evening adventures.
RACK
RACK stands for "risk awareness consensual kink". This isn't a specific activity, but a general thought process. Anything can be a kink or a fetish, but the most important aspect is the discussion that happens between the partners. Talking through the activities is the best way to identify the potential limits and potential risks. An understanding of the risks and comfort level is a base necessity for the mutual pleasure of everyone.